#068 PLEASE DON'T KILL YOURSELF
First of all I want you to know you are not the first one who have experienced it. Many people have thought about it at least once in life, however please read it.
Don't kill yourself today because if you do, your mother or that one who lives with you will come to your room to wake you up, only to realize that your heart isn't beating.
Don't kill yourself today because that person will hold your cold, dead body. While sobbing uncontrollably with the realization that she will never get to hold you again.
Don't kill yourself today because when they address your death at school, university or work, your best friend or that colleague will be sitting in class or at work, completely frozen and destroyed.
Don't kill yourself today because your best friend or maybe the only person who you once thought loved you will be too sad to do anything for weeks. She will have blamed herself for your suicide, and will ask herself why she couldn't do anything for you. She will wonder why she wasn't important enough to make you stay.
Don't kill yourself today because your father or that person who you thought was so proud will cry, relentlessly, for weeks. Even though you have never seen him cry, the loss of his child or relative will tear him up so much. He will stop going to work. He will stop living his day-to-day life because now a piece of him is gone and buried in the ground.
Don't kill yourself today because your brother or that cousin will never again be able to do the things that you did together. He will no longer be able to look at your room to see what he can take to annoy you. Now, when he looks at the door to your room he doesn't dare enter because in there are traces of you. He loved you. You didn't even say goodbye to him.
Don't kill yourself today because your sister will not sleep. When she closes her eyes she sees your lifeless body, instead of her role model and best friend. Even if you fought, she always loved you and wanted to be like you, no matter what anybody said. You left her alone.
Don't kill yourself today because your favourite teacher won't be able to teach like before because all that they see is that empty chair; the empty space that was once where you laughed and talked all through class, he would wonder why he couldn't realise it and help you.
Don't kill yourself today because your entire family will be devastated. The ghost of you eternally lodged into their minds and souls, leaving constant reminders that their beloved daughter, sister and friend felt so terrible that you had to take your own life and it will last till the last day of their lives.
Don't kill yourself today because your pet will never comprehend what happened, it will just know that one day you disappeared. Your pet will stop eating and look for you, even though they will never find you. Didn't you love it? What did it do wrong?
Most importantly, don't kill yourself today because I believe in you. You may not feel like anybody sees it, but they do. I see you're struggling. I see you trying to fade away a little bit more each day, until you eventually just disappear.
Don't kill yourself today because you have so much more left to live for, you just have to wake up and see it. If you never wake up, how will you ever live your dreams? How will you fall in love with somebody who loves you just as much, if not more than you love them? How will you ever get married to the love of your life? How will you ever have children who see you as their rock? How will you ever just be happy?
Don't kill yourself today because there are better days coming.
It's always darkest just before the dawn, so stay awake with me. Let's prove them wrong.
Don't kill yourself.
Somebody loves you.
I love you.
You matter.
You always will.
I had a friend who killed himself, he used to live next door, he was a great guy and nobody imagined it was gonna happened cus' he didn't even tell anybody he was going through some hard situations. His cousin, a good friend of mine, travelled to Argentina with her mum. It happened then, I was in the USA, I was in shock when I realised it cus' I sometimes called his home cus he sometimes helped me knocking on my mum's door to let her know I was calling her. He was so kind that it hurts until now. He was just 17. We'll remember him forever.
Please if you're going through any hard situation, don't kill yourself. Watch this video. Here are the lyrics.
I had a friend who killed himself, he used to live next door, he was a great guy and nobody imagined it was gonna happened cus' he didn't even tell anybody he was going through some hard situations. His cousin, a good friend of mine, travelled to Argentina with her mum. It happened then, I was in the USA, I was in shock when I realised it cus' I sometimes called his home cus he sometimes helped me knocking on my mum's door to let her know I was calling her. He was so kind that it hurts until now. He was just 17. We'll remember him forever.
Please if you're going through any hard situation, don't kill yourself. Watch this video. Here are the lyrics.
Please don't kill yourself,
I'm talking to you and I don't pretend to know everything that you've been through,
but if it's shame you feel, just know that I've sinned, too.
And if it's pain you're feeling, just know that that's something I went through.
I don't know your story but I know you and me are a lot alike
so let me talk to you for a minute, while I've got this mic.
I was 18 when I pulled a gun out at the time it felt like my options had run out
so I pulled that barrel to my chest and I pulled the trigger halfway,
I tried to muster up the courage to put myself away that day
but halfway with that trigger pulled, I stopped tears flooded my eyes
and that pistol dropped and I sat in my room and I sobbed for an hour,
on the outside I was fine, on the inside a coward,
the noise of my depression had gotten louder and louder,
I had planned a way out on a baptism shower of gunpowder
I've been lied to just like you're being lied to now
other people can't help you but I might know how
because I've walked in your shoes and I've been at my lowest
and if you don't know anything, know this
you might tell me you're gonna kill yourself
but God wants to meet you in the middle of your hopelessness,
God wants to give you a way out of these feelings of doubt
and the sound of chaos might be reverberating around you like heavy metal
but confusion isn't from God, it's straight from the devil
and he wants to silence the noise and bring peace to you
and I promise if you just ask him he'll see you through
you got to this place because you tried fighting your own fight
and where did that get you? except contemplating about taking your own life,
and if you got bullied to this point, I'm sorry you went through that
but God want to take those words from your attackers and send them back,
you don't have to be defined by what people said about you.
Let me pick you up if you don't know how to.
You're not alone man! You've got a friend in me,
you got better days ahead of you, I just pray you begin to see
know that everything the devil did to you, he wants to replay
but everything the devil took from you, God wants to replace.
Listen to me right now, you better look me right in the face,
you were created for more than to die in this place.
Don't do it man, please don't take your life
just take my hand we'll make this right
I promise if you do this you'll regret it,
you wake up in eternity remember, I said it
and you wished so bad you could just go back.
I'm here for you right now please just know that
and if you think you're alone in this fight, you've been lied to
that depression came after me and I nearly died too.
I thought suicide was the only way and death was meant for me,
the devil played his music and I sat front row though that symphony,
I walked through the fire and I felt that heat but I pushed past the...
I stood to my feet, I walked out and I refused to go back
I took my depression and threw it right back into that wood stack
and that fire must have blazed 50 feet high
and now I plan on leaving a legacy to look back on someday when I die,
and right now I'm telling you to stand up too, deep down inside you know
It's the right thing to do, think about your family, think about you
Don't kill yourself, please don't do it whatever you're facing God will see you through it.
I had a fan kill himself and his mum asked if I could come see her,
she was depressed and asked if I could meet her,
two weeks later depression beat her,
she ran into a telephone pole without a seat belt in a two seater.
And I wish I right now I could crawl through these speakers
and somehow convince you not to go the same route she did
I wish I could change the fact that you feel defeated,
I wish I could lock my arms around you and tell the devil to beat it
but I can't reach everyone even though I do my best to try.
Some people believe the lie that it's just best to die
and they think it's the simple way out but they're not here to see the way things play out,
they don't see the hurt they caused, the pain they leave,
I take this seriously this isn't a game to me,
even thinking about ending your life is living dangerously.
So please just listen to my voice, right now you have a choice,
you can choose life or you can get drowned by the noise.
Please don't do it, please ask for help,
if not for your family, do it for yourself.
God bless you all. Comment and share it, maybe you can save someone's life.
i like this history, because i am studying psychology and think about the depresion is a emocional disease and it is need help professional. the familia, friends and partner are very importan in this situation. Mental pain is less dramatic than physical pain, but it is more common and also more hard to bear. The frequent attempt to conceal mental pain increase the burden. It is easier to say, "My tooth is aching" than to say "My heart is broken".
ReplyDeleteI am Jaime Marreros
I couldn't agree more with those phrases you said at the end, it's hard to admit that feelings and emotions hurt more than any other thing. Recently a man hanged himself with a rope on a bridge because his baby passed away and his girlfriend left him due to the fact that he is a druggie. Man frankly depression is the worst thing could exist apart from evil. We need to be really perseverant and strong to understand everything happens for a reason. As I said in the story, I remember another person, who hung himself and the pain his family went through was huge. So please help as many people as possible as a psychologist. May God help you.
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DeleteI think this story could help many people who think they don't have any solution to their problems and the only way to solve them is killing themselves, but they don't know the same time they are hurting the people that love them, and this story will make them realize are people that love them, and in the text mention that all pass for this kind of moment in which we ask ourselves existential questions that make us fall in the depression, but for this problems are groups that can help the person who is passing this complicated situation and they can follow your situation. So the only that i can say is we have more reason to live than reasons to die.
ReplyDelete-Raul Malaver
You know what Raul, all of us will die sooner or later, it is just a matter of time, but life is not easy, that is what many people forget, I mean sometimes we think we have the worst problems in the world without realising that there are other people who suffer not sometimes like us, but everyday like the ones who have cancer for example and want to survive and live more, sometimes we behave in a selfish way thinking about ourselves but not about others, especially the ones who love us, because there is always at least one that loves you and if not, God. :)
DeleteIt is a difficult situation that millions of people go through his head that is the solution, especially those who suffer from depression and loneliness. They go through terrible situations that need someone to be able to get out of that dark tunnel, and we can help them, make them reconsider that they have confidence in themselves again. God did not give you life to be taken away in seconds. Think about your future, about the people who can affect them, family, friends, etc. I liked the article, I felt identified even because behind the problems there is always a solution for this, and taking your life is not one of them.
ReplyDeleteNow a day many cases of suicide are seen, mostly in adolescents. Most suicide attempts do not end in death. Many of these finish in a way in which rescue is possible. These attempts often represent a necesity for help.
ReplyDeleteSome people attempt suicide in a way that is less painful. Relatives of people who try or commit suicide often blame or get very angry. You can see the suicide attempt as selfish. However, people who try to commit suicide often believe that they are doing their friends and relatives a favor by leaving this world.
I also have relatives who have wanted to commit suicide and in this story tells us exactly what it feels when you are a friend or relative of people who has these problems. The best thing we can do in these cases is always talk, with the same person or with a specialist to know what steps to follow.
Heimy Guerra Peñaranda
i decided to choose this story because suicide is an interesting topic. many people go through this situacion. it's amazing how many people don't think about the consequences which are mentioned. if people with this kind of problem would read this story and would listen to this song they would change their mind. In spite of feeling sad, suicide people must understand that they are never alone, there are people who love them and they would suffer with their death. It would be advisable that they talk to a psychologist to help them. There are always reasons to live, they just need to find their reason.
ReplyDelete- Milagros Matta
This story has moved me because they talk about how people feel when someone close to them dies and how important it is to always analyze what is around you. Another important point is today many people decide to commit suicide and this story has helped me to think how important life is. Before taking actions it is important to always think about the damage that one can cause
ReplyDeleteand suicide is not the only solution to solve problems. Psychologists can be very helpful and it is always important to talk about what one feels
_NATHALIE BORJA RODRIGUEZ
I have decided to give my opinion about this story, I think that the feeling that nobody loves you is one of the main causes of suicide. Many people need to read or listen to some of these phrases to realize that if there is someone who cares about us and that we are valuable and that we have a purpose in life. Many times I have gone through this situation and I decided to study psychology one year ago, and I know that I will help many people with these intentions. I am happy to open this article Mr. Sandro Chavez
ReplyDelete-Katherina Molina
Nowadays, for most people is difficult to open up with psychologists because they can consider them as strangers so for me these kind of blogs are helpul for them to reflect and rethink about their future decisions and consequences like the pain of their family or friends. One way to get away from these thoughts is having an inspiration to get over their troubles and all support necesary.I think the life is challenge but it doesn't mean that we don't need someone is willing to have our back.
ReplyDeleteClaudia Lavi.
The adversities during the life can hurt us and we could think is not possible to resolve, but it's important to know that always will exist a solution. When someone wants to disappear is because has used all the reasources and don't get what he wants. Can be a familiar problem, a couple problem, a problem with himself, etc. If you can help, you have to do it because you will cure his heart and you will improve his life. The suicide won't be an option ever.
ReplyDeleteSofía Castillo
Those were very inspiring words indeed, but I’m afraid I partially disagree. All the text does is appeal too feelings of guilt on the part of the one who is thinking in committing suicide, saying “do not kill yourself because other people will feel sad”, and as far as I know that’s not the correct approach to deal with suicidal thoughts.
ReplyDeleteBy saying these words the person thinking in committing suicide may feel worse: not only his life causes problems, but also his death.
When sorrows come, they come not single spies, but in battalions (Hamlet, Shakespeare)
In this story there is much to talk about, depression has become the second cause of death in the world and the first in Peru. We all have to become aware and be empathetic with others, they need all our emotional support, there are many ways to help them and let them know that suicide is not an option. Arount the world there are many free professional help centers and solidarity campaigns are being carried out.
ReplyDeleteHere he left a video in which they make a song in collaboration with people who have tried to commit suicide, however, they are facing life. The title of the song is exactly a phone line of an organization that offers free support in critical situations to these people.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Ju6Q8Azcmg&list=RD_Ju6Q8Azcmg&start_radio=1&t=60
Sincerely this text has left me speechless, I do not know what I can say and leaves you with a doubt so deep that you do not know what to do, personally I believe this would be the right way to try to stop someone who would commit suicide, this text shows you the reality through what would happen if you kill yourself, many times people say they want to kill, but they do not think about the people around them, your relatives, your friends, even your pet . Not because you are having a bad time now means that it will always be like that.
ReplyDeleteIt is a reflection that refers to how important it is to overcome personal problems not to get to the point of taking your own life.
ReplyDeletebecause some people can kill themselves and without knowing they cause a lot of sadness to their relatives and friends who can also be affected and take that bad decision.
Then the author always recommends overcoming problems and continuing to live happily.
I like this story because it is about how people close to you feel. I think this story can help people who want to kill themselves because if they read this article they can reflect because they know how the people they love feel.
ReplyDeleteI recommend reading this story because it does not only reflect people who kill but also of the feelings of people who love.
I think this kind of people should seek help but not only in psychologists but also in the people who love as they are a great support in our life.
Well, I consider it a strong theme for me, I wish I had found it years ago, although I am still strong in the face of adversity, sometimes I have that vague idea of giving up and disappearing, however I also have ideas of continuing to live and find something to continue doing it.
ReplyDeleteBy having my grandparents and my mother medicated, there used to be many medicines at my fingertips, many times I thought about taking all the pills that i found and ending my suffering.
There were many times when I used to stand in front of the tracks while the cars passed, waiting for the moment to launch myself, go to high places to contemplate what it would be like to put my end from another "Angle" or choose a way without suffering.
Ever since I had these vague ideas, I always insisted that my mother take me to a psychologist and I told her that she no longer wanted to continue living, that she had no goals or dreams, but she only managed to tell me that the psychologist is for people with great problems, and that it was not necessary to go. It was really hard for me.
But being a coward stopped me each and every time I wanted to try it, the problems became increasingly non-existent until I completely ignored them and began to reason for myself, I understood that I should not let myself be manipulated by myself family, and that if it was my family, they should respect my decision to be what I want, study what I want, and do what I want as long as I recognize my limits.
That's when I started to decide what would become of me in my future, if the best option was to put an end to it or keep trying, so I opted for the second. Thank God my mother supported me and continues to support me until now, I managed to stop being manipulated by my family, I started studying, very soon I will be completing one of my goals, which is to finish something that I always wanted to study.
Currently I am out of those vague ideas, I found a person with i fallen in love , and I feel that my life finally makes sense, this person dedicates his time to me and tells me everything that has also happened, he listens to me and understands me , gave me a place in his life and gave me back the desire to live it, teaches me new reasons to live, and helps me in my most difficult moments, I really am very grateful to myself for having chosen the second decision, since I found a person who would make it worth it, and now I find myself wanting to achieve many things, things that would never have crossed my mind before, I have new perspectives and new goals, I feel happier than ever despite my illness , here I continue to fight to be better every day, and I am also grateful with the life of having found such an incredible person as him.
This blog made me remember everything I have been through and see that I am on the right track, at the time it would have helped me a lot, however it has made me see how much I have advanced as a person and how I have changed to what I used to be.
A tip for those who are going through difficult times: Cheer up that life is very beautiful and there are many ways to continue enjoying it, it is not necessary to have all the money in the world or live in an incredible place to achieve it, you will find the right people with the time, make it worth it every second, every minute, the fight is not yours alone, it is of everybody who pass the same , we can win this fight by finding new paths for ourselves, and not opting to remain stuck in our problems, if it is necessary to seek It helps, if you feel lonely, is better than a professional supporting you.
This fight is not only yours, it is ours, you can fight everything!
-Nicolle Nuñez