#073 CONTROL YOUR TEMPER



Do you know someone who has a bad temper? Perhaps you have a bad temper that you wish you didn't have. Can you imagine the damage such a temper can do to you and others? 

 kid showing bad temper with a hammer in hand
There once was a little boy who had a very bad temper. One day, bothered by his fits of temper, his father decided to hand him a bag of nails and said that every time the boy lost his temper, he had to hammer a nail into the back fence.
On the first day, the boy had driven 37 nails into that fence.
The boy gradually began to control his temper over the next few weeks, and the number of nails he was hammering into the fence slowly dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to control his temper than to hammer those nails into the fence.
Finally, the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He proudly told his father the news and his accomplishment so the father suggested that the boy should now pull out a nail every day he kept his temper under control.
The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.

“You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there. Son, a verbal wound is as bad as a physical one or maybe worse”

Moral of the story: 
Wasn’t that a beautiful story with a valuable lesson? Isn’t it a reminder most us need from time to time?
Everyone gets angry sometime or the other and some of us even have a bad temper, and that’s alright. But remember, once the scars are formed, they take a long time to heal.
Control your anger, and don’t say things to people in the heat of the moment, that you may later regret. Some things in life, you are unable to take back.

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Comments

  1. Unknown20 July 2019 at 18:51

    I really like the history.
    It is a simple history and it makes it easy to understand, it is an interesting history and it gives us an advice to be more careful about our reactions when we are in a bad temper.
    From my point of view, the temper is something that we must learn to control because if we don't, it can have very serious consequences for us and for the people who we talk. When we don't control it, we can say hurtful things to the other person and he or she can feel bad and it can ruin our friendship.
    When the father decided to hand him a bag of nails and said that every time the boy lost his temper, he had to hammer a nail into the back fence, I consider it a good way to teach him what happens when we do not control ourselves and do harm to others.
    An example of this can be when you are working in a team, you finish your part of the work but your classmate don't finish their part because they are playing or they aren't concentrate on it, the time is over and the teacher gives to you a desapproved grade.
    I had an expererience with the bad temper, a friend of my school was always telling the negative things of our classmates when she felt angry. One day, another friend wanted to stop her and he gave her "her own medicine",it wasn't good for her because she started to cry, but she apologized to all the people that she hurt.


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  2. Unknown12 September 2019 at 15:34

    In the story the father finds a solution for his son, so that he does not move on to more serious actions such as insults or physical aggression. It is a good story that makes us reflect our actions. In my opinion, if we don't control our emotions like temperament, we can hurt other people and even those we love most. The reflection is: We must think before acting like saying or doing the things that hurt the people we love most. In the story (THE FATHER ALWAYS TRUSTED HIS SON).
    NAYELI SAAVEDRA

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  3. Unknown15 February 2020 at 04:42


    This is a great story, I liked it a lot, especially the message, it is very simple, in my opinion and own experience, a person must control their emotions, it is definitely not an easy task, but it will be necessary if we want to maintain relationships in all areas, family, work, friendships.
    The example of the scars was great, nothing more real, it is as simple as not doing to another that doesn´t want to done you.
    Many times the things aren´t the same as before, it is important to think before acting or say something, remember that our words could leave scars.
    Ruth Begazo

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  4. Anonymous20 February 2020 at 09:17

    Very good story, that makes us recognize the importance to controlling our temper.
    Many times, we lose control and let ourselves be carried away by the impulse and we are not able to understand the impact this has on others, and the wounds that can make us lose important relationships.
    Stefanie C.C.

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  5. Unknown22 September 2020 at 08:12

    Is a beautiful story with a great teaching. I think we should all learn to control our temper, it is essential for respect and empathy to exist between all people.
    I liked very much how the father was able to find a solution to teach his son not to lose his temper at all times, it is something that most parents should teach their children from a young age. Otherwise the consequences could be severe and negative.
    A bag of nails and seeing them hurt the back fence of the house, could help the child understand how to say hurtful things or have abrupt behaviors with others, leave scars on people, and many times losing control of our emotions can lead us to lose a friend, a job, a relationship, even family.
    Teresa Cameo.

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  6. Marissel Vignolo8 April 2024 at 14:14

    This story has a great and valuable moral.
    Some of us lose control at times and justify ourselves by thinking that verbally nothing has consequences. And it is quite the opposite. When you love and care about someone you have to be careful to watch what you say. Especially when dealing with children who are forming their concepts of certain situations and will later take them as an example. Knowing how to control our temper is a great battle with ourselves but it's worth it. We should get used to treating others as we would like to be treated.

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